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Jesus I LOOK to You!

I want to be YOUR Dream Come True...

A Tribute to our BLACK Men... Watch and Be Inspired..

Happy Monday... I guess...

I have yet to meet someone who is SUPER excited about Monday. Just moments before the alarm clock goes off, I think the weight of the weekend seems to crush you.

It was my plan to finish editing a few of the projects I've been working on. BUT my body needed rest so that's what I did.

I'm looking forward to the week ahead... There are MANY things that MUST be accomplished on my list then are things that I want to complete.

That said, I will just take it one day at a time with every intention on reaching my goals for this week!

I pray that each of you finds balance, peace, and clarity as you begin your week...

Now I LAY Me DOWN to SLEEP...

Today was a great day! I had breakfast at a local eatery that I like. I went to CHURCH because it was SABBATH according to my religious belief. I took a much needed 3 hour nap after eating a HUGE meal that was tasty and satisfying for lunch. I then went to SKATE with friends from Church. Then to a 24 hour place so that we could eat and talk. 

There were many interesting topics... 

But rather than trying to sum up my feelings, and thoughts I'm going to go to sleep. 

Then wake up God willing, have morning Quiet time with God, then check my To-Do List then WRITE at some point once the above  is done... 

I trust each of you are having a good weekend thus far and I pray that each of you is safe! May God Bless each of you! Goodnight and Sweet Dreams...

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Is the Biblical Perspective on Premarital Sex STILL Relevant in today's Society?

Yesterday on Grown Folk Radio at 5pm the topic of the day was is the Bible still relevant when it comes to Christian Singles and their Sexuality?

Being that I was raised in a very closed society of religion, certain things were just not acceptable. One of those things was Sexuality before marriage. However, as with everything there are DOUBLE Standards.

In my OPINION there are countless double standards in EVERY Religion. Come to think of it double standards exist in society. I enjoy EQUALITY. I feel that if a Man can do is dirt and still be respected then I feel like I should be able to do whatever it is I feel like doing at the moment. I don't feel I should be judged by what I'm doing because that's not WHO I am.

For example, because I'm a Journalist that doesn't mean that I'm not a Woman as well. People have this perception that I'm supposed to be Prim and Proper 24 hours a day without fail. But I feel like Journalism is just my Career its not who I am. That said, I would appreciate it if everyone treat Me like the cool, comedic individual that I am rather than trying to put me in a BOX.

With that foundation in place I'm going to give my thoughts on the topic

I am of the opinion that SEX is just for Marriage. HOWEVER, being that I'm not a teenager its safe to assume that I have had at least one sexual partner. It always gets Me when Men ask me crazy questions like:

"How Many Men have you been with"? What, I scream in my HEAD just because you are attracted to Me that doesn't mean that I as a Woman lower my standards to sleep with every man I happen to think is physically captivating. I am a Woman after all NOT a Man in this respect anyways. So while Men may have a hard time controlling themselves. I for the most part have a pretty good handle on who I am as a Woman.

I want nothing more than to be Married and Pregnant. But apparently this isn't my season for that. So it is what it is...

I think that when it comes to SEX you are talking about something that I consider to be sacred. So even though my FLESH my want to Sample Every Flavor of Man I happen to see my LIFE experience has taught me by observing others that there are HUGE consequences to well just doing anything with anyone. Sure you may think you as a Woman are getting over but the whole time you are screaming EQUALITY he's just laughing thinking that he got the jackpot. He has the best of both worlds a Woman he is attracted to plus she's trying to be Ms. Independent so there's NO reason to Settle down with her.

In the End its the Woman that gets the judgment and more importantly is left SINGLE.

Now I must admit that I'm single because of my MOUTH... I tend to talk people to death... Therefore, I write when no one is interested in Speaking with Me.

I think that NO one should be having SEX before Marriage, Male or Female. BUT that's just not the world that we live in....

Mind of a Black Man... From the Mind of a Black Woman...

Black Men feel they are unable to be Open with Black Women in terms of their emotions. I have grown up around all types of Men and I've NEVER understood why Black Men seem to CLING to Non-Black Women once they reach a certain status.

I choose to ask some Hard Questions starting out with Family and Moving out to Friends then to total strangers who I felt met my criteria. Any Black Man I saw dating outside his race I asked him especially if he had some level of success why he was dating outside of his race. I got an waterfall full of answers but in my opinion there was a common theme: Black Men feel disrespected and under appreciated by their Black Women. I was told story after story of hardship and determination.

But one thing Many Black Men told Me was that even though they were willing to fight for their Mom's or Grandmothers they were not willing to FIGHT for the LOVE of a Black Woman! At first this answer really ANGERED Me. But then I began to research the reason behind the conclusions of the Black Men I spoke to. I found that Many Black Men felt that the women of other races were Easier to Get along with in every way. According to the Men I interviewed they felt White Women were More Open Sexually, Spiritually, and that while the Black Woman looked at the Black Man with Regret the Non-Black Woman looked at the Black Man with Respect, Appreciation, and Admiration.

I had to take a good look in the mirror at myself and ask myself How I had treated Black Men I worked with, went to school with, or had relationships with. I quickly came to the conclusion that many times I allowed the pressures of life to cloud my appreciation, love, and the respect I had for many Black Men. I never stopped to think about the level of rejection a Black Man dealt with on a Daily Basis. I never stopped to think about how I verbally attacked my Black Brothers when they made moral mistakes. I never took notice of how my words may have help to shape the perceptions of Black Men around Me.

With the above life experiences combined with lots of soul searching I've realized that my Black Brothers need more love, more respect, more devotion than any other Man on the Planet. Regardless of how I'm treated by Black Men that I love and admire I have attempted to make a conscience effort to understand the MIND of the Black Man rather than jumping to conclusions and then verbally lashing out. I am praying and asking God to soften my heart when I am wounded by Black Men emotionally. I now understand that "Hurt Black Men Hurt Black Women by default either by rejection or by interaction."

Start Your Day Right Each Day!

Every Morning I get up I take time to spend in the Bible. Now you may think this is a silly way to begin a day. Stop and think for a second about what your Morning rituals are.

• Some may start by drinking a cup of their favorite blend of coffee

• Others may begin their day by braving the cool temperatures to take their morning smoke

• Still some may begin their day by looking at their to-do list they made the night before

• Then there are those that thrive off knowing what's going on around the globe so read the headlines off say Google News or their favorite New Outlet

• Then there are those that begin EACH day with God

• Then there are MY personal Favorites those that Wake up Each Day and have their Quiet Time for reflection and Bible Study who then visit my Blog for their Daily Dose of Hott Mocha!

I at different times of my life have tried all of the above or used a combination of a few of the examples I gave. But from my life experience I can tell you that when I have taken time to thank God for allowing me to wake up with my health and strength my day seems to go so much better!
Especially when I take time for an Inspirational Thought or Song or Bible Scripture. I seem to be Empowered! I seem to be reminded of the fact that my Life is Truly in God's hands if I allow Him into my Heart each day!

Life is hard. I cope with the struggles of life by trying to look for the positive in all the negative situations that I encounter or that my friends encounter. I try to remain Hopeful but sometimes its hard really hard to Imagine when you are faced with Reality each and every moment of the day.

Last night before going to sleep the last thing that I did was watch President Obama Address the Nation during the 2011 State of the Union! I personally was moved by the realism. I was prompted to be hopeful and to continue to look for ways I can stay involved in my community, church, and family.

As I watched President Obama I was reminded why I worked so hard and will continue to sacrifice my desires for the needs of those around me. I was reminded why I should continue to Imagine or Think BIG or Just Work Hard even when there is no real solution in sight. I was reminded to have Faith and I was reminded to continue putting my TRUST in God and Not Man!

I know that God knows my heart and He knows my daily struggles. More importantly God is there in the darkness of my room when I'm all alone. God hears my prayers and sees my Tears as they roll down my cheek onto my pillow. God knows when my tears are happy tears and when they are tears out of frustration! God knows Me and I'm beginning to put my Trust in Him and His plan for my life by Beginning Each Day Right...

Why don't you give it a try... The way I see it, I've tried everything else...Why not Try Jesus...

Hott Mocha Book CLUB Schedule for 2011

For those of you who don't know I've been meeting regularly at Barnes & Noble since 2008 for my Book Club! So its January and there are so many great books to read! I'm now accepting suggestions for our next reading project. As always if I don't get any suggestions then I get to PICK the Book! I would appreciate your input. I would like to Meet this Year at the University Park Barnes & Nobel! Please let me know what days are good for you. So far some are suggesting Monday nights for 30 minutes.... Again, I'm open for suggestions!

Hott Mocha Book Club Incentives & Prizes

• I will have Hott Mocha Book Club Membership Punch Cards!

• Earn a Punch for each Book read + Attendance at meeting!

• You will earn the Next Book FREE after getting your PUNCH Card filled!

• Choose from Your Choice of 2 Book Club Bags with My Hott Mocha Book Club Logo for 5 dollars or the Free Book when the Punch card is filled!

Great Random Experience!

Today I met such a nice woman! At first glace you may think that we have nothing in common. But come to find out we have lots in common! We are women who are passionate and eager to make our way in the world. She has a daughter studying at Columbia and I might get the chance to speak to her daughter in the near future hopefully. Come to find out her daughter and I share lots in common from our overall personality to actual careers.

Being that I've been working for quite some time as a TV Journalist/Personality I love meeting NEW exciting women. But my passion is Youth Mentor-ship! I'm great at lots of random things but I'm great at School so that's why I'm super excited to go to school once again... This time its in an area that I feel I may be able to make a difference.


At my age, everyone is thinking about their life purpose and what they are doing to either fulfill or reach their goals. I am eager to see where God will lead and place in my life this year. Already I've had the opportunity to meet such awesome people!

TO MY BLOG Readers:

Thanks for taking time out your day to get
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God Grant Me Grace... Make Me Over from the Inside... This is my Prayer...

Sometimes I find it so very difficult to remain positive when there is so much negativity going on in the world, media, and my community. It's so easy for me to lash out with my FIST in the Air: "Screaming Justice for Everyone". But then I am quickly reminded by God's Word The Holy Bible that ALL are sinners... That everyone, especially Me is in need of God's Grace. More than that I need constant Forgiveness, and well Guidance. I know that God is the one in charge of my life if I allow Him. 

But I have to say I find the WHOLE Journey of Sanctification frustrating and tiresome... I know that my Spiritual Transformation is a life work but I am one that THRIVES off meeting deadlines so the mere Concept of NEVER being able to CONTRIBUTE or reach a Deadline is like walking on broken glass with no socks! 

I CRAVE the ability to truly Forgive and to let go of past issues but something in me believes that if I forgive then I'm saying that the wrongs that happened to me are either nonexistent or are no longer relevant. I know that God is the ONLY one that can give true Justice but sometimes I want the COURT system, Media, and others to take VERBAL responsibility. 

Having such strong opinions put Me in a very sticky situation because I am often the perpetrator of Harsh words. I need to allow the Holy Spirit to quiet my lips when tempted to just FLY off the handle. I need to learn to listen more than I speak. There are so many things I need God to Fix in Me. I just hope that I don't allow my stubborn nature to keep me from the Blessings that I know God has in store for My life... 

 

Shh...Family SECRETS Revealed...

Oprah finds out that her Mother gave up a daughter for Adoption. The daughter's name is Patricia which actually was the same name of the daughter that had passed a few years back. I was MOVED by this story because OPRAH took it upon herself to dedicate an entire show to uncovering the FAMILY SECRET which turned out to be a BLESSING in disguise! Oprah now has a half sister who she met for the very first time!

Every family has SECRETS including mine... There is a time and place for everything. For me its been very hard choosing when and how to disclose certain things. I know there are many in my Family that wish I was quiet and reserved. Or maybe not compelled to address the things that have happened during my life thus far. I believe my motives are pure BUT I will admit that my Presentation and Timing haven't been the best... Especially recently.

I can't say that I haven't wanted to inflict pain to certain family members in an attempt to get them to acknowledge my pain and emotional torment, that I've endured for much of my life by KEEPING Family Secrets.

With the New Year... I've chosen to continue to do some major soul searching and counseling in an attempt to address my brokenness. I ask for your prayer, as I try to deal with my past in a way that will enable me to become empowered rather than living in the jail of my mind, that has often made Me feel chained to the past...

Introducing Holly Robinson Peete the Host to Watch on CBS's NEW Show: The Talk

Holly Robinson Peete Biography 

Holly Robinson Peete was recently featured as a candidate on "Celebrity Apprentice." Her other television credits include "21 Jump Street," "Hangin' With Mr. Cooper," "For Your Love," and "One on One." She also starred in the original cable movie, "Matters of Life & Dating."

In addition to acting, she performed the theme songs for both "21 Jump Street" and "Hangin' With Mr. Cooper," and did her own singing as Diana Ross in the miniseries, "The Jacksons: An American Dream." Robinson Peete has also been an on-air personality alongside her husband Rodney Peete, a former NFL quarterback, on their daily radio program, "Meet the Peetes," airing on Sirius/XM Satellite Radio.

In 1996, Robinson Peete and her husband formed the HollyRod Foundation, inspired by her father's courageous battle with Parkinson's disease. Following their son RJ's autism diagnosis in 2000, the couple launched hollyrod4kids to focus on improving the lives of children and their families affected by autism. Through the HollyRod Foundation and her family's personal experiences, Robinson Peete has become an advocate for consistent and reliable education, outreach and support of families affected by autism and Parkinson's Disease.

In spring 2010, Robinson Peete released her second book - a children's picture book called My Brother Charlie about autism from the sibling's perspective - which was co-authored by her 12-year-old daughter, Elizabeth Peete.Robinson Peete won the 2006 Quill Literacy Award with her first book, Get Your Own Damn Beer, I'm Watching the Game: A Women's Guide to Loving Pro Football.

Robinson Peete attended Sarah Lawrence College. She and her husband of 15 years are the proud parents of four children. Currently, they reside in Los Angeles. Her birth date is Sept. 18.

Now for my comments:

Of course I have always been a FAN of Holly Robbinson Peete! What's not to LOVE! Peete, is the ESSENCE of Womanhood! She is a Wife, Mother, Career Woman, Involved in all types of Community Service and to top all that off she is such a Beautiful Woman of Color! 

Watching her for the first time when I was a child on the the sitcom "Hangin' With Mr. Cooper I instantly related to her comedy but was blown away by her charisma and her charm! I read every article I can get my hands on that's about her especially when its about Children with Learning Differences! I love to just see what she's up to next! 

Of course I'm choosing to highlight Holly, because like EVERYONE I watch TV because I relate to one of the Host or Cast Members. 

I think the TALK has Amazing Hosts! I think they have The VIEW beat! At least when it comes to Women in my Demographic which are women between 25-35! The Women on the show are all very Accomplished, Fashion Forward, Independent thinking Individuals that have a flare for communicating their unique perspective! DIVERSITY is always the best INGREDIENT to any SHOW, OFFICE, TV Network, Church, or Community! 

I've PAYED my Dues! I've honed my Skills! I've taken direction & critique! I'm READY for MY Opportunity: The Natasha Ray Show

Oxygen's SNAPPED featuring TV Personality Natasha Ray

Click on the TITLE and WAIT for the CLIP to START playing! Thanks for your support and for watching! I've learned so much since covering the Murder Trial of Mary Winkler! I am PRAYING that God will continue to watch over MY Career as I take STEPS to Produce, Direct, and be the TV Personality for my OWN show! But enough about me!

Oprah on her TV Network called OWN is allowing budding Journalist or budding TV Personalities to go through the TRIALS and TRIBULATIONS associated with JOURNALISM. I love this show because it allows people to REALLY UNDERSTAND by GOING behind the Scenes to SEE all the HARD work and PLANNING that goes on to make good TV! I am clearly rooting for the contestant who looks most like me that I can relate to both in beauty, background, and overall personality! Let me introduce you to Alicia she is Beautiful, Bold, Black, and above all she is a go getter! I invite you to tune in to watch her!

I know that ONE Day I will GET the OPPORTUNITY to have my OWN Show! Until then I will keep myself busy with other things like community service, My Mary Kay Business, Church Ministry and School! I have a feeling that God is getting ready to BLESS My Life Abundantly! After all, God knows about all the racism and hardships my Career in Journalism has caused my life. God knows the self sacrifices I've made. But most of all God knows my HEART and God has seen my TEARS! He has seen me self sabotage friendships because I didn't have the TIME or ENERGY to be a GOOD friend. God has watched me go through all my ups and downs and for some reason I feel that I've been given a SECOND chance! A BRAND New Opportunity to be the BEST Natasha I can be to learn from my Many Mistakes and to dust myself off and continue moving towards the call and MISSION of my LIFE as a TV Personality, Motivational Speaker, Gospel Broadway Vocalist, Fashion Designer, Author, and Blogger! I want to have it ALL I want to have CAREER and FAMILY and I refuse to SETTLE for anything LESS! Pray for me as I attempt to allow God total control over my LIFE!

ARE You Really UP for the CHALLENGE? I WANT You to MAKE Me FEEL like I'm the ONLY GIRL in the WORLD!

WE as BLACK WOMEN or MOCHA WOMEN are SO VERY Talented!

CONDOMS... Yes I SAID it!

The truth of the MATTER is this topic MUST be discussed! To believe that Young Unmarried Adults aren't engaging in premarital SEX is CRAZY! I don't care what religion, social economic group, ethnicity or whatever! If nothing else PEOPLE are having SEX during these HARD financial times! So with that said, I would like to say that I think the above condoms by Durex are QUITE CUTE! I mean unless you were reading the fine print one might think that the item was a cosmetics compact of some sort. Go down to your local health department if you don't believe me when I tell you even CHILDREN are HAVING Sex! Rather than passing around STD's or STI's as they call them now... Sexually Transmitted INFECTION because according to officials at the Indiana Health Department the word Disease scared off Minorities and Teens so Infection is the politically correct way to say SEX GERMS! Germs that can kill you, rob you of your years not to mention steal your ability to have children in the future! I think EVERYONE that isn't MARRIED that isn't living a sexually pure lifestyle by remaining abstinent should BE USING CONDOMS! In my perspective, I think that if you MUST use anything why not invest in the CUTE item and in this case... The condoms! Protect your heart, your mind, and your reputation as much as possible by obtaining from SEX but if you KNOW you are a PERSON who always ENDS up in a compromising situation then USE a CONDOM!