Mind of a Black Man... From the Mind of a Black Woman...

Black Men feel they are unable to be Open with Black Women in terms of their emotions. I have grown up around all types of Men and I've NEVER understood why Black Men seem to CLING to Non-Black Women once they reach a certain status.

I choose to ask some Hard Questions starting out with Family and Moving out to Friends then to total strangers who I felt met my criteria. Any Black Man I saw dating outside his race I asked him especially if he had some level of success why he was dating outside of his race. I got an waterfall full of answers but in my opinion there was a common theme: Black Men feel disrespected and under appreciated by their Black Women. I was told story after story of hardship and determination.

But one thing Many Black Men told Me was that even though they were willing to fight for their Mom's or Grandmothers they were not willing to FIGHT for the LOVE of a Black Woman! At first this answer really ANGERED Me. But then I began to research the reason behind the conclusions of the Black Men I spoke to. I found that Many Black Men felt that the women of other races were Easier to Get along with in every way. According to the Men I interviewed they felt White Women were More Open Sexually, Spiritually, and that while the Black Woman looked at the Black Man with Regret the Non-Black Woman looked at the Black Man with Respect, Appreciation, and Admiration.

I had to take a good look in the mirror at myself and ask myself How I had treated Black Men I worked with, went to school with, or had relationships with. I quickly came to the conclusion that many times I allowed the pressures of life to cloud my appreciation, love, and the respect I had for many Black Men. I never stopped to think about the level of rejection a Black Man dealt with on a Daily Basis. I never stopped to think about how I verbally attacked my Black Brothers when they made moral mistakes. I never took notice of how my words may have help to shape the perceptions of Black Men around Me.

With the above life experiences combined with lots of soul searching I've realized that my Black Brothers need more love, more respect, more devotion than any other Man on the Planet. Regardless of how I'm treated by Black Men that I love and admire I have attempted to make a conscience effort to understand the MIND of the Black Man rather than jumping to conclusions and then verbally lashing out. I am praying and asking God to soften my heart when I am wounded by Black Men emotionally. I now understand that "Hurt Black Men Hurt Black Women by default either by rejection or by interaction."