Ok... So I decided I wanted to tackle the topic of SEX specifically as it relates to me as a christian woman of color. That said, I would like to make the observation that during my years I've noticed that sex in general is a very taboo topic in the black church. Basically in my experience the only time its ever mentioned at church is when there is a problem say fornication, adultery, or teen pregnancy...
Then I thought to myself how come the church doesn't address or talk about sex within the confines of marriage as a fun, pleasurable, activity? Why aren't there any books really on black love dedicated to the exploration of sex? Personally I like reading books on different types of sexual exploration techniques such as Tantra or Kama Sutra. I'm not ashamed to say that I enjoy reading these books well because I find the topic interesting.
I think that I should be able to discuss the topic of sex without being judged. I mean I'm of the opinion that God created me as a sexual creature. Further more I believe that God created sex to be enjoyed but also as a means of procreation obviously. I believe that when two people engage in sex who are in a committed relationship preferably married that it can be such a gratifying experience! I am also of the opinion that it is the responsibility of both partners to keep the channels of communication OPEN so that each one can feel loved, satisfied, and appreciated.
I think that some how within the black church that sex has become demonized. Meaning, that many people even those that are married feel uncomfortable expressing the PLEASURE or satisfaction that can come from a healthy sexual relationship. I think that its a shame that in this day and age many including myself have been made to feel that sex is a dirty thing that shouldn't be spoken about. I wonder why this idea has been allowed to be passed on from generation to generation within our christian communities.
I for one am not ashamed to say that I think sex should be a topic that is discussed more than in just a negative light in regards to how it is addressed in our churches. I don't think that people should be ashamed to say that they enjoy an amazingly satisfying sex life with their spouse preferably or committed partner.
I would appreciate any comments about your experiences as it relates to how you feel sex is viewed or discussed within the confines of your church community!
Then I thought to myself how come the church doesn't address or talk about sex within the confines of marriage as a fun, pleasurable, activity? Why aren't there any books really on black love dedicated to the exploration of sex? Personally I like reading books on different types of sexual exploration techniques such as Tantra or Kama Sutra. I'm not ashamed to say that I enjoy reading these books well because I find the topic interesting.
I think that I should be able to discuss the topic of sex without being judged. I mean I'm of the opinion that God created me as a sexual creature. Further more I believe that God created sex to be enjoyed but also as a means of procreation obviously. I believe that when two people engage in sex who are in a committed relationship preferably married that it can be such a gratifying experience! I am also of the opinion that it is the responsibility of both partners to keep the channels of communication OPEN so that each one can feel loved, satisfied, and appreciated.
I think that some how within the black church that sex has become demonized. Meaning, that many people even those that are married feel uncomfortable expressing the PLEASURE or satisfaction that can come from a healthy sexual relationship. I think that its a shame that in this day and age many including myself have been made to feel that sex is a dirty thing that shouldn't be spoken about. I wonder why this idea has been allowed to be passed on from generation to generation within our christian communities.
I for one am not ashamed to say that I think sex should be a topic that is discussed more than in just a negative light in regards to how it is addressed in our churches. I don't think that people should be ashamed to say that they enjoy an amazingly satisfying sex life with their spouse preferably or committed partner.
I would appreciate any comments about your experiences as it relates to how you feel sex is viewed or discussed within the confines of your church community!
I totally agree with what you said. And I've always asked myself why is is that a stripper knows more moves than the average wife? That being said, I plan on going into marriage therapy with a specialty in sex therapy because I really think that so many people need to be re-educated when it comes to stuff like that.
ReplyDeleteI really appreciate your comment! I wish you all the best in your future endeavors! Research and education is the key to making a difference :-)
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