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Look at this MOVE as me getting ONE STEP CLOSER to my own .com

Thank You from the bottom of my heart, to each of You who takes the time to read my BLOG daily! I hope you will find the new BLOG Home just as comfortable as this one has become to you!

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A Tribute to our BLACK Men... Watch and Be Inspired..

Happy Monday... I guess...

I have yet to meet someone who is SUPER excited about Monday. Just moments before the alarm clock goes off, I think the weight of the weekend seems to crush you.

It was my plan to finish editing a few of the projects I've been working on. BUT my body needed rest so that's what I did.

I'm looking forward to the week ahead... There are MANY things that MUST be accomplished on my list then are things that I want to complete.

That said, I will just take it one day at a time with every intention on reaching my goals for this week!

I pray that each of you finds balance, peace, and clarity as you begin your week...

Now I LAY Me DOWN to SLEEP...

Today was a great day! I had breakfast at a local eatery that I like. I went to CHURCH because it was SABBATH according to my religious belief. I took a much needed 3 hour nap after eating a HUGE meal that was tasty and satisfying for lunch. I then went to SKATE with friends from Church. Then to a 24 hour place so that we could eat and talk. 

There were many interesting topics... 

But rather than trying to sum up my feelings, and thoughts I'm going to go to sleep. 

Then wake up God willing, have morning Quiet time with God, then check my To-Do List then WRITE at some point once the above  is done... 

I trust each of you are having a good weekend thus far and I pray that each of you is safe! May God Bless each of you! Goodnight and Sweet Dreams...

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Is the Biblical Perspective on Premarital Sex STILL Relevant in today's Society?

Yesterday on Grown Folk Radio at 5pm the topic of the day was is the Bible still relevant when it comes to Christian Singles and their Sexuality?

Being that I was raised in a very closed society of religion, certain things were just not acceptable. One of those things was Sexuality before marriage. However, as with everything there are DOUBLE Standards.

In my OPINION there are countless double standards in EVERY Religion. Come to think of it double standards exist in society. I enjoy EQUALITY. I feel that if a Man can do is dirt and still be respected then I feel like I should be able to do whatever it is I feel like doing at the moment. I don't feel I should be judged by what I'm doing because that's not WHO I am.

For example, because I'm a Journalist that doesn't mean that I'm not a Woman as well. People have this perception that I'm supposed to be Prim and Proper 24 hours a day without fail. But I feel like Journalism is just my Career its not who I am. That said, I would appreciate it if everyone treat Me like the cool, comedic individual that I am rather than trying to put me in a BOX.

With that foundation in place I'm going to give my thoughts on the topic

I am of the opinion that SEX is just for Marriage. HOWEVER, being that I'm not a teenager its safe to assume that I have had at least one sexual partner. It always gets Me when Men ask me crazy questions like:

"How Many Men have you been with"? What, I scream in my HEAD just because you are attracted to Me that doesn't mean that I as a Woman lower my standards to sleep with every man I happen to think is physically captivating. I am a Woman after all NOT a Man in this respect anyways. So while Men may have a hard time controlling themselves. I for the most part have a pretty good handle on who I am as a Woman.

I want nothing more than to be Married and Pregnant. But apparently this isn't my season for that. So it is what it is...

I think that when it comes to SEX you are talking about something that I consider to be sacred. So even though my FLESH my want to Sample Every Flavor of Man I happen to see my LIFE experience has taught me by observing others that there are HUGE consequences to well just doing anything with anyone. Sure you may think you as a Woman are getting over but the whole time you are screaming EQUALITY he's just laughing thinking that he got the jackpot. He has the best of both worlds a Woman he is attracted to plus she's trying to be Ms. Independent so there's NO reason to Settle down with her.

In the End its the Woman that gets the judgment and more importantly is left SINGLE.

Now I must admit that I'm single because of my MOUTH... I tend to talk people to death... Therefore, I write when no one is interested in Speaking with Me.

I think that NO one should be having SEX before Marriage, Male or Female. BUT that's just not the world that we live in....

Mind of a Black Man... From the Mind of a Black Woman...

Black Men feel they are unable to be Open with Black Women in terms of their emotions. I have grown up around all types of Men and I've NEVER understood why Black Men seem to CLING to Non-Black Women once they reach a certain status.

I choose to ask some Hard Questions starting out with Family and Moving out to Friends then to total strangers who I felt met my criteria. Any Black Man I saw dating outside his race I asked him especially if he had some level of success why he was dating outside of his race. I got an waterfall full of answers but in my opinion there was a common theme: Black Men feel disrespected and under appreciated by their Black Women. I was told story after story of hardship and determination.

But one thing Many Black Men told Me was that even though they were willing to fight for their Mom's or Grandmothers they were not willing to FIGHT for the LOVE of a Black Woman! At first this answer really ANGERED Me. But then I began to research the reason behind the conclusions of the Black Men I spoke to. I found that Many Black Men felt that the women of other races were Easier to Get along with in every way. According to the Men I interviewed they felt White Women were More Open Sexually, Spiritually, and that while the Black Woman looked at the Black Man with Regret the Non-Black Woman looked at the Black Man with Respect, Appreciation, and Admiration.

I had to take a good look in the mirror at myself and ask myself How I had treated Black Men I worked with, went to school with, or had relationships with. I quickly came to the conclusion that many times I allowed the pressures of life to cloud my appreciation, love, and the respect I had for many Black Men. I never stopped to think about the level of rejection a Black Man dealt with on a Daily Basis. I never stopped to think about how I verbally attacked my Black Brothers when they made moral mistakes. I never took notice of how my words may have help to shape the perceptions of Black Men around Me.

With the above life experiences combined with lots of soul searching I've realized that my Black Brothers need more love, more respect, more devotion than any other Man on the Planet. Regardless of how I'm treated by Black Men that I love and admire I have attempted to make a conscience effort to understand the MIND of the Black Man rather than jumping to conclusions and then verbally lashing out. I am praying and asking God to soften my heart when I am wounded by Black Men emotionally. I now understand that "Hurt Black Men Hurt Black Women by default either by rejection or by interaction."

Start Your Day Right Each Day!

Every Morning I get up I take time to spend in the Bible. Now you may think this is a silly way to begin a day. Stop and think for a second about what your Morning rituals are.

• Some may start by drinking a cup of their favorite blend of coffee

• Others may begin their day by braving the cool temperatures to take their morning smoke

• Still some may begin their day by looking at their to-do list they made the night before

• Then there are those that thrive off knowing what's going on around the globe so read the headlines off say Google News or their favorite New Outlet

• Then there are those that begin EACH day with God

• Then there are MY personal Favorites those that Wake up Each Day and have their Quiet Time for reflection and Bible Study who then visit my Blog for their Daily Dose of Hott Mocha!

I at different times of my life have tried all of the above or used a combination of a few of the examples I gave. But from my life experience I can tell you that when I have taken time to thank God for allowing me to wake up with my health and strength my day seems to go so much better!
Especially when I take time for an Inspirational Thought or Song or Bible Scripture. I seem to be Empowered! I seem to be reminded of the fact that my Life is Truly in God's hands if I allow Him into my Heart each day!

Life is hard. I cope with the struggles of life by trying to look for the positive in all the negative situations that I encounter or that my friends encounter. I try to remain Hopeful but sometimes its hard really hard to Imagine when you are faced with Reality each and every moment of the day.

Last night before going to sleep the last thing that I did was watch President Obama Address the Nation during the 2011 State of the Union! I personally was moved by the realism. I was prompted to be hopeful and to continue to look for ways I can stay involved in my community, church, and family.

As I watched President Obama I was reminded why I worked so hard and will continue to sacrifice my desires for the needs of those around me. I was reminded why I should continue to Imagine or Think BIG or Just Work Hard even when there is no real solution in sight. I was reminded to have Faith and I was reminded to continue putting my TRUST in God and Not Man!

I know that God knows my heart and He knows my daily struggles. More importantly God is there in the darkness of my room when I'm all alone. God hears my prayers and sees my Tears as they roll down my cheek onto my pillow. God knows when my tears are happy tears and when they are tears out of frustration! God knows Me and I'm beginning to put my Trust in Him and His plan for my life by Beginning Each Day Right...

Why don't you give it a try... The way I see it, I've tried everything else...Why not Try Jesus...